Francesca's Blog

Hello, and welcome to my Blog

I'm Francesca Care. I'm an Adult Content Creator, Erotic Writer and Actress - and sometimes all of those come together (!!) to create some great sensual content.

I'm also a fully trained and experienced tantric sensual massuese offering sensual massage and erotic experiences from my studio near Gatwick Airport, Surrey, UK.

And sometimes all of these come together and I create exceptional videos of me massaging one of my trusty collaborators.

Hi Visitors!

I'm asking for some feedback about my Blog!

I'm particularly interested in the type of content you like, and the type of content that you would like to see.

Can I ask you to send me a message through my massage website letting me know about those two topics?  It's an online form that pops up, you fill it in and submit it - simples! I'll use this information to guide future content.  Please remember that while content can be a bit saucy, it can't be blatant/graphic/etc or my whole site will get shut down, and neither of us wants that!

Here is the link to the form Send a message about my Blog    (Opens in a new tab)

While you are there, feel free to have a look around!

By way of reward for your input and, maybe as an encouragement to fill it in, here are two stills from video content that will be in one of my "Tales of the Erotic" illustrated stories in the near future - hope you enjoy them.

I really enjoyed this shoot!

Guess the building in the background!

The form asks for an email addy and a phone number, so if you want to remain anonymous to me, just put in something that looks like it could be an email and a phone number - it doesn't have to be real.  If you do want me to know who you are, then put real values in and say they are real in your message.

Thanks in advance,

F xx

Once you have made an appointment with a Provider they will be very pleased if you observe the following suggestions;

Keep to your appointed time. – Even 5 minutes early (unannounced) is too early. 5 minutes late may create a more rushed session.

Do not show up early without checking that it is OK first. – We do not want you to run into other clients, and probably neither do you.

If you are running late then let the Provider know ASAP. – It will give us time to move other appointments if we can. Never just “No-Show” or you will be Blacklisted.

Carefully read the instructions of where to come to. – Make sure that you are going to the right place.

Call if you think you are lost. – Do not just keep on walking, you could risk losing your appointment through lateness.

Keep to a Provider's instructions – If they have asked you to text then text them. If they have asked you to call, call them.

Do not hang around outside a Provider's location. - You may look suspicious to neighbors, they may think you are a thief casing the place.

Be discrete when a Provider is talking to you in to a building. – It is crucial that we keep a low profile, and we need your cooperation to do that.

We operate in a low key way. - Do not loudly announce on an intercom or to the Porter you are there for a massage or “The 5 o'clock appointment”. This could lead to us losing our property and livelihood.

Do not loudly repeat a Provider's instructions. Talking loudly in a corridor can upset or irritate neighbors.

Do not knock on a door if you are not sure it is the correct one. Call us if you are not sure, keep calm, listen carefully as we instruct you where to go.

By keeping to these requests you can have a far happier Masseuse and therefore a better massage.

1)      If you know you are running late tell us ASAP.

2)      If we are not the person advertised do not feel pressured into staying.

3)      Place payment on the side. Do not feel pressured into paying more than the quoted amount.

4)      Ask politely but do not expect or pressurize for more than has been agreed upon.

5)      Do not accept baby/mineral oil as a massage medium.

6)      If you doubt that linen is fresh ask for new linen or cancel the session.

7)      Freshen up for the best massage experience.

8)      Respect the Provider. Do not record or delve.

9)      If we are too chatty then ask for silent relaxation.

10)   Understand that we may prefer not to discuss our private life.

11)   If you prefer a certain touch/pressure/approach then let us know.

12)   Don't try and kiss your Provider.

13)   It is best not to push the Providers boundaries.

14)   Respect your booking time and avoid overstaying your welcome.

15)   Never tip a Provider who has the cheek to ask for a tip.

Once you have chosen your Provider and booked your session if anything comes up which means that you cannot make it or that you are running late then please tell us ASAP . We will appreciate your courtesy rather than having us sitting around waiting without knowing what is going on, which is frustrating. In letting the Provider know you are not going to make the session we can offer it to other people or if you are running late there may still be a possibility that we can still see you. However, No-Show a Provider and you run the risk of being blacklisted across the board.

Sadly, there are some Providers who are not so honest. If you turn up and we do not look like the person advertised this could be either a Bait & Switch (fake photo to entice you to book, often used by Parlors or Agencies who have high staff turnover) or due to an old or overly re-touched photo . Please do not feel pressured into accepting their fraudulence by staying and do not accept unreasonable changes to anything previously agreed upon.

When it comes to payment on a first visit it may be best to have it ready to hand over shortly after arrival. On future visits you can place it on the side (the Old School way is to use an unsealed envelope and then to take a shower to allow the Provider to check the “Paperwork”). Do not feel pressured into paying more than has been quoted and don't be suckered in by a sob story .   If you have done your research and checked enough reviews prior to selecting your Provider the above will be unlikely to happen.

During the session if you wish something else to be added to the experience then voice it politely but do not expect or pressurize the Provider for more than has been agreed upon. If we have specifically said something is out or our remit then do not ask for it. It is the fastest way to sour any rapport that has been built so far.

In our training a good massage provider is taught what the best oils or massage media are to use and should not be using substandard products. Do not accept baby/mineral oil as a massage medium it is the equivalent of wrapping your skin in plastic. It is also an indication that the Provider has not been properly trained.

A good quality Provider will ensure that all linen is clean. If you doubt that linen is fresh ask for a new set or cancel the session. If a place is not clean it is a big red flag on quality too.

It is always advisable to freshen up for the best massage experience . Pay special attention to the sweat spots (armpits and groin) as well as breath. There should be mouth wash available to use in the bathroom. Your massage provider should also be clean and fresh. If they are not (cigarette or coffee breath being a classic example) then maybe mention it to them nicely.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to respect the Provider . Do not record at them or try to remove them under their clothes during the session. Doing this is like not ordering a dessert but picking at the sweet trolley as it goes past. It's just plain ol' rude!

Each person receiving a massage has differing preferences and levels of social interaction. If we are too chatty in a session either stop replying to questions or if the Provider is not taking the social cue from you (for them to be quiet) then ask politely for silent relaxation . If we are chatting with rather than at you then do please understand that we may prefer not to discuss our private life in detail. A Provider's preference for privacy may be for many reasons, their personal security being one of them.

During the session if you prefer a certain change in touch/pressure/approach then let us know. With your feedback we can tailor a session to suit your best within our bounds.

Don't try and kiss your Provider. It is always an awkward moment for us. We end up bobbing our heads about like Stevie Wonder! Please, no matter how much you may want to, don't try it! It is best not to push the Providers boundaries, to do so is not only annoying but can also be intimidating and in pushing for more than a massage you may even be breaking the law .  Remember the Provider should honor what service has been agreed upon prior to the start and they are obliged to keep that and that only. Just because you may want more does not mean that it is on offer or will happen if you keep on asking for it.

While it is lovely to take a long shower, relax and chat after your massage please respect your booked time. I once had someone take over 20 minutes in the shower and a further 20  just to put their socks and shoes on (they didn't need help. I asked in case they did!). Running way over your time like this risks a declined further booking. Kindly keep within a reasonable time and don't overstay your welcome.

After your massage never tip a Provider who has the cheek to ask for a tip, especially if the service was substandard. Tip only if you feel that we have gone above and beyond expectations . Don't feel bullied into giving up your hard earned cash especially as you have probably handed over enough already!

I hope that this is useful to you and wish you a wonderful session. Happy Relaxing! X 

Once you have decided to get a sensual massage, picking the right Provider to suit you can be a challenge. I have tried to provide guidance notes and a summary to help newbies get the best return on their leisure time investment. I hope my tone is not too harsh, but some points are really important, which is why I stress them to avoid mistakes being repeated.

1)      READ the advert; don't just look at the picture.

2)      Follow any weblinks and have a proper read of the website.

3)      Beware of providers without websites or with cheaply hashed sites.

4)      Google Provider names and numbers for reviews.

5)      Check that images are not “stock” with a reverse image search engine.

6)      Take note of what the therapist does (or doesn't) do.

7)      Oral/anal/vaginal sex is not a massage. It is offensive to be asked, especially if we specifically say that we do not perform “escort/VIP/other” services.

8)      Donations or Prices are displayed on our sites. DO NOT BARTER.

9)      Take note of when we do and do not work.

10)   If calling/texting to book - Leave a message with your Name, time/day & length of session.

11)   Call once, twice at most, leave a message. Do not ring our phone off the hook.

12)   We rely on your discretion just as much as you rely on ours.

13)   Take proper note of the instructions given.

14)   Stick to your appointment time. Don't worry if you are early.

15)   NEVER turn up without an appointment.

Please take time to read the advertisement; don't just look at the picture. Personally, I feel a picture should be alluring rather than showing what someone had for breakfast, lunch and dinner! However, some girls use pictures from intimate glamor photo shoots which is fine, but may at first glance lead you to think that more is on offer than just a massage. A read of their warning should confirm if they do or do not do more. Also reading our adverts should indicate if we are the right Provider for you ie in your budget , in the right area/ location , in the right shape for you.

Beware of Providers without websites or with cheaply hashed sites, they are more likely to be fly-by-night and variable in their delivery of their session. Google the name and number separately for reviews, some bad providers keep the same phone but change their name to hook more people in.

I will also add that any number that is broken up or alphabetized is also a bit of a red flag as they are not easy to search.
If you don't know what I mean try to google my number as o7;;;82;;;67;;;6;;;12////68 or 0 7 8 2 6 7 6 1 2 6 8.
It is a lot difficult to find bad providers with multiple people if they do not show their number in an easy to search format.

Use a reverse image search engine http://www.comptalks.com/top-10-reverse-image-search-engines/ to verify if images are genuine or stock. A stock image is a big red flag on quality.

On their website, a decent Provider should make it clear what their boundaries are and give a clearer picture of what happens within their session. Some of us do not go into minute detail to protect our methods from plagiarism.

There is usually a FAQ section on our websites, take note of what the therapist does (or doesn't) do and then please do not ask for something specifically mentioned as not available. At best, we find this mildly irritating; at worst you may be on the receiving end of some fiery provider giving you some verbal abuse. Personally, I will ask you if you would walk into a bakery and ask for a roast chicken. While the Baker is fully capable of roasting a chicken, it is not on offer to anyone other than their nearest and dearest!

Please be very aware that often we are forced into advertising in the escort section of many classified boards. This is because sensual massage is a sort of No-Man's-Land. We as Providers are cast out of the Therapeutic Massage section of some boards and moved to the Escort category yet a true Sensual Massage Therapist does not perform oral/anal/vaginal sex as that will no longer make it a massage! Do please appreciate that it is offensive to be asked for sexual activity especially if we specifically have said that we do not perform it or “escort/VIP/other” services.

Each Provider has their own rates and the Donations or Prices are displayed on our sites. One of the most disrespectful things that you can do is barter. If someone is out of your price range then either save up for a rainy day or search for a Provider in your budget range.

Take note of when we do and do not work and kindly respect those hours .  A call at 2am for a massage if we finish at 8pm is not appreciated.

While it is fine to make first contact via text do not be surprised if you are asked to call us (or have us call you). Voice verification is important to us. When leaving a message please give us a name, time and length of appointment and we will get back to you as soon as we can. Most of us do not answer our phones during a session as it is very disrespectful to the person receiving a massage. Do not keep calling/texting until you get a reply . Just leave a simple yet informative message so we can reply once we are not busy with the information you need. Ringing the phone off the hook makes you look demanding and impatient; you are less likely to get a call back if you do this.

Once you have made an appointment take proper note of the instructions given. Some people will ask you to confirm an hour or so before the session. Do not panic if you do not have a complete address, this is not uncommon. It is a safety net to stop weirdness (people who call for the address with no intention of booking but to cause trouble by sending us a fleet of taxis, endless fast food orders, or waiting around to stalk us. Yes, sadly this happens).

Please stick to your appointment time. If you are early do not hang about outside our door, go have a coffee, walk around the block but please, don't scare our neighbors. You may think you look harmless, they may see you as anything from a potential burglar to potential child abductor (yes, seriously! Some people have overactive imaginations, still in the interest of harmony, please do not lurk). We rely on your discretion just as much as you rely on ours, maybe even more so.

You will most likely be asked to call the Provider as you approach an area/their building and they will talk to you in to where you should be going. LISTEN to them and their instructions and if you are unsure ask them to repeat themselves. It is best not to repeat the instructions back as it could disturb the neighbors. While I understand that you may be nervous knocking on the wrong door is not going to help those nerves at all and it will make the situation 100 times worse for all. Once a friend had someone head down a completely wrong set of steps and even though they were told the very last set at the end. He saw some very small children playing in the window he actually knocked on and stared into the window with a stiffy. The neighbor freaked out thinking he was a pervert and the whole episode leads to them having to move as even the sight of a man walking past her gate freaking her neighbor out.

Although a session on a whim may be tempting never turn up without an appointment . We may not be around, if we are in then at best we will be started, at worst you could bump into your colleague leaving/arriving. It can also be seen as stalker behavior. Don't do it, always CALL ahead! If you do not want to save our number as Sensual Masseuse pick something like SAM T (Sensual Attractive Massage Therapist) instead, you will know who we are

ENJOY your session, after all that is what it is all about!